Yes NLT I hear you on the grocery shopping. I would always do the shoppping while h watched the kids and then he would help carry everything in the house and help put it away.
Now I still shop on my own, but have to bring everything in and put in all away on my own. I do ask the kids to help me. They like that. It's just not the same though!
I do miss h for the little things.
Try not to think of the holidays for now. The past 2 Christmas's my h was not around. Family was always visiting me and the kids and h would not show himself. Don't know what to expect this year!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Yes, my H would help carry everything in. The 40lb dog food bags are hard! Since I have an SUV it's not quite as hard as it was getting it out of the trunk of the car but still it's heavy, I've learned to put it over my shoulder but it still hurts my back.
Little things are correct, it I do miss them so much.
I have a feeling your H will be around for the holidays this year, at least some if not all.
I've been working around my house all day, cleaning & getting some things done. I just started missing H so bad!!! I miss our talks & we knew things about each other that no one knew. I hope & pray that he will come to his senses. I don't even know the OW but I don't think she is a very good person, I could be wrong but anyone that will chase a married man & has been M that many times doesn't say a whole lot for her. Ok, I'll hush now, I'm working on forgiveness.
I was thinking today how much I miss my ex after I went grocery shopping. He and the kids would be waiting for me and we would all put the groceries away as a family. It was like a tradition. Then after everything was put away we would pig out.
You are right, it is the little things that matter. You can never take those memories away. One day they will remember.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I so hope you are right & they do remember the little things!!!! My H has been on my mind so much lately, I hope we are connecting some how. I hope I'm on his mind also.
n, They do remember things about their previous lives. Each and everyone remembers special holidays, events, etc. They remember the special songs, moments, etc. that you shared w/each other. It takes a long time, but the memories will eventually be shared w/you again.
My xh has mentioned on several occasions things that we use to do that I just knew he had forgotten, but he didn't. No matter what their actions are, memories do not fade away, especially the good ones forever. He's fighting them now, but when he stops running and self-medicating w/wifey, he'll pull those memories of your life together out and reflect upon them.
As for your xmil contacting you, I suspect she wanted something. I wouldn't contact her....if what she wanted was something she needed, she will call again.
n, please take care of yourself. Your xh has not erased his memory bank...the memories are all still stored in there for safekeeping.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You just don't know how much your post meant to me!! Thank you so much for that!!!!! It made me feel so much better. I know we had our ups & downs but for the most part we had a wonderful marriage.
If my exMIL wants to talk to me she will have to call me back. I don't plan on calling her. If she had not been so hateful to me at Xmas last year then I would have been keeping in touch with her & probably even gone to see her. I was her favorite DIL b/c I talked to her & didn't act hateful to her like the other DIL's did.
Normally on Sunday mornings I'm trying to get ready for church & I don't stop & get on the internet but this morning for some reason I did & I'm so glad. You really made me feel better!!!
I use to think my xh didn't remember because he was great at erasing memories, but I was shown 3 years ago and it continues today, his memory of what we once did together is still there and no matter what, those memories are there for always.
As for your xmil, let her be. She will contact you again.
Enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well, I do think about it & sometimes my mind starts thinking about H & OW being together before he knew that I knew about her, just about makes me sick so I have to stop!
But, yes you post did make me feel better. I sure hope my ex is thinking about me!!!
