Just a quick update: Couldn't take the rejections and disrespect any longer. No matter what I did, I was criticized or pushed away. I moved out of the house to a recreation room attached to our garage several days ago. She asked that I not do it and that it would not help but if I continued in the house with she and the 3 boys, I would lose it. Hurt too much to be around her constantly being reminded she no longer wanted me...
I find the peace and quiet out her much to my liking but lonely at times. I a still maintaining the housework (I am disabled and do not work) the laundry, shopping and making supper.
I do not g in the house until the boys are off to school and she to work. I am there when the kids get home, feed them supper and get the homework started. I leave for my sanctuary before she gets home.
She told me she wanted to feel self sufficient so I also put the finances in her hands so she could maintain the budget and pay the bills.
From her response so far, being self sufficient isn't all it looked to be. She's beat at the end of the day and I'm actually enjoying her dose of reality.
I am maintaining my improvements, I've lost 40 pounds since the beginning of September, I pulled out all my nice clothes that fit once again and I've purchased a new wardrobe. I'm turning heads at the soccer practices and games and she is noticing this.
I've decided that if she wants to go forward with the D, I'm not taking custody of the children as she was hoping. I see no reason to give her the single life again. She wants out, she can have it but the kids are going with her....
Reasoning with her did not work. Allowing her to see a part of what her life will be like as a single mom is making a huge impact. I hope it works to my advantage. If not, I will go on with my life and enjoy me new found single status.
What do you all think of this move I've made? Bad or good idea?
