You used the phrase "ravish her against her initial resistance". How do you tell such resistance from the real thing? I'm very afraid to do anything against my wife's will with regards to sexuality. I certainly don't want to go to prison.
Also, it's been my experience that many men's greatest fear from early childhood is rejection by a woman. No doubt a follower of Freudian psychology would trace this to a fear of one's mother's rejection. In my case, I often avoid making advances towards my wife because I don't want to hear another "Now?" or "I'm tired." Then after a few days to a week she might say "What's wrong?" or I might notice her looking at me secretly. I know she's wondering why I haven't approached her sexually. I believe that if women want a man to "just be a man" they must build in him a trust that he will be allowed to "just be a man."
To PR: Hang in there, friend. It sounds like you've got a decent woman who's struggling to learn things about what she likes and is probably very embarrassed by exploring this side of herself. I think that's part of my wife's problem. In my wife's case, a 10yr older promiscuous sister and a runaway alcoholic father is the probable source of her trouble. Think on this: Is there anything in or about your wife's past that may have turned off her natural sexual urges? Not necessarily abuse, but perhaps someone she might have looked up to who was caught in some sort of sexual indescretion?
