I just don't know how to act around W so I pull back
How does it work when your in love with the assistant and after work the assistant goes home to her boy friend. How does it work when the person you love is not capable of loving you back. I pull completely away from her because being with her hurts so much. I pull away from her becuase I'm afraid of getting to close to her and having my heart broken all over again. I don't want to be her friend, I don't want to have anything to do with her. I want to forget her and just move on with my life.
You kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you.
John Mayer Dreaming With A Broken Heart lyrics
When you're dreaming with a broken heart The waking up is the hardest part
You roll out of bed and down on your knees And for a moment you can hardly breathe Wondering was she really here Is she standing in my room?
No, she's not Cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone.
When you're dreaming with a broken heart The giving up is the hardest part
She takes you in with her crying eyes Then all at once you have to say goodbye Wondering could you stay my love Will you wake up by my side?
No, she can't Cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 0.58333 days
Jeff, that's all very heartfelt, and I'm not disputing ANY of that obvious pain. You're overreacting to my point. All I suggested was for you to add some common "please" and "thank you" courtesies in your interactions with your wife, especially in front of your children. If you don't feel you can do the hug part, then don't do that, but saying "thank you" and "goodbye" and such shouldn't really be that difficult.
You've done -- and are doing -- MUCH harder things than those, and admirably so.