I just thought I'd post and say hello in DB world. IMHO your H wouldn't have had the letter sent to your place on purpose- he's most likely not thinking properly at the moment and I'd also imagine that he didn't think you'd be reading any letters coming for him. WAS tend to live in a parallel world where they can't see the consequences of their actions.
I think going dark is a great technique for regaining your balance and your centre, and to help you detach from the situation. It takes a long time to move on completely but I think dark can help (having said that I've never done it for more than a couple of weeks).
