[quote=JeffSTL]Thanks everyone for checking in on me
I just don't know how to act around W so I pull back
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How does it work when your in love with the assistant and after work the assistant goes home to her boy friend. How does it work when the person you love is not capable of loving you back. I pull completely away from her because being with her hurts so much. I pull away from her becuase I'm afraid of getting to close to her and having my heart broken all over again. I don't want to be her friend, I don't want to have anything to do with her. I want to forget her and just move on with my life.
I relate to all that too. I think you have to detach and move on in that kind of sitch. This past week I didn't email or phone H once and said just a few words to him last time I saw him. Probably a dozen or so. Friendly, but detached. Not quite the same as being a friend. I think you have to detach for you. You could try to work on being a little friendly, but I don't think you should try to be her friend. I think she really needs more like the help of a C in my opinion. Does she see one or would she be willing to? Or if she is seeing one maybe she needs to switch to someone else? Maybe that's what you could suggest something like that next time she is clearly in pain? ((((Jeff)))) Karen
