I agree with H4U, Lost. I think there is value and wisdom in that he is just a tiny bit further down your path, and you can learn from each other.
I'm not saying to go overboard and starting pursuing her, or going all "melty man" or needy/grabby, and I don't think H4U is saying that either. But us LBSs do need to guard against being SO firm in our resolve that we give the wayward spouse a sense of hopelessness. She needs to be able to see that you "get it" and that, if she WERE to agree to end all contact and reconcile with you, that there'd be a "new Lost in Space" waiting for here there, and that he's forgiving and more intuitive than ever.
