H deep in A & MLC, need support 4 roller coaster!

[glamgirl]

Dawn you have so much on your plate right now. Everytime I read your thread "ICE" comes to me. Not sure if that is an accurate assessment, but it seems like your home is built on ice right now.

Did you go on the webiste divorceasfriends.com? There is some great advice on the resentment and anger piece. It comes from within. You will need to let that go before anything could possibly work with your h.

It's not all about keeping the house clean, cooking, maintaining your own appearance. What is missing is that emotional bond to keep you connected to your h. It sounds like your h has identified that for you too. When you can love unconditionally, you will have love, compassion, empathy, appreciation, respect, admiration for your h and it will come out in your interactions with him.

Right now, that can't happen! I am sure you have a wall up when you are around your h and he can sense that. When the wall is up, your h will escape to ow and will do so frequently, hence the cell phone calling, texting. I don't think that sounds uncommon for your h. He is putting himself front and center in this ow's life.

I know that when h and I were really connected, we would talk upwards of 15+ times a day. We would just keep each other updated throughout the day. Especially if your h's ow lives far away this is one way to stay connected with her.

The barrier needs to come down Dawn between you and your h. It starts with you loving yourself. If you can't love yourself how can you love your h? Spend time with YOU! What do you love about yourself. Keep those positive thoughts going!

Just a few that we have learned about you; amazing artist, awesome story telling skills, determination, beautiful fit body. See Dawn, find things about yourself that you love and look yourself in the mirror and say "I love you" to yourself. Once Dawn, you can truly love yourself then you can truly love your h.

I do think you need some outside intervention. If you go to a church they may have some c's on staff or just look for someone in your area. This will help you to talk about things.

Think of your h as a roomate right now. How would you treat a new roomate that just moved into your home. Here are some examples; H I made some cookies today enjoy some if you like; H I am going to Target today is there anything you want me to pick up for you; H I thought I would watch the movie Gladiator this evening would you like to join me?

When you say and do these things they must come from the heart and not out of resentment or anger or it's pointless. Expect nothing in return, but you are opening the door.

In my sitch, h and I were so distant. Now look at my h. I was persistant and prayed and prayed and prayed some more for both me and my h.

God bless Dawn! Hugs!