The support doesn't seem to last very long at all, at least since his birthday. Prior to that, things seemed to be going better than they have in a long while. I guess that's why the phone calls bother me so much. His behavior seems to have started about the same time as the calls. Well, no sense focusing on that. There is nothing that I can do about it and I have no control over what he is doing.
I know that I have to be the best "me" that I can be, and let him worry about himself.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
I saw that too RCI and LOVED it. Had an off day yesterday. H paycheck didn't go direct deposit. When he knew nothing, I asked him if he had another account that he had it put into. He told me FU. All in text. I replied, you said you wanted to do that so I wondered. More text about check, finally got it, the amount. About 3 hours later I got a text "Ok, sorry about FU." I almost died. Spent the next few hours crying on and off. H has probably only apologized to me 10 times in 19 years.
Hope-for some reason I can't remember how long you have been at this. It does sound like he is cycling. To be honest, my H had done a lot of that. Really nice, then jerk for a long time. Now he is acting more like a friend than anything else. Which is good in a way I guess. As I have looked back, I can see the beginning as March 06, the tunnel as they call it started in sept/oct 06. Maybe beginning to make way out but really not sure. For my H OW was/is whatever she was. No idea EA or PA. Don't really care, still hurt. But the spending was really bad. I of course just thought he is buying stuff for whatever reason and did my best to keep the finances afloat. As he is doing finances now, he is slowly, slowly stopping the spending. I have also noticed that he has started talking to a male friend again that could be really good and maybe is the reason for the apology yesterday. This man has been having marital problems for a long time, last summer, when H dropped first bomb, he told me about F and said "he is a good guy, he really wants to fix his marriage." They had stopped talking for a long time, but now... I just don't know so I'm trying to take it for what it is worth. H told me recently that OW/friend had been D 3 times and she was telling him to do what he felt comfortable doing. I slipped and said great person to be taking advice from. She knows nothing about marriage except how to D. Maybe mae him think a little. I don't know. Like I said, talking to other friend now, who had one D and doesn't want a 2nd. Just a thought. Sorry for the hijack.
Hope you have a good weekend.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Think it will be my new label for H's MLC. He has RCI, he! he! he!