2008 = Crazy Year (F'd Up 14)

[Hope4us]

Lost, Haven't posted in a while, but I have been following along.

I might be way off here, but I think you should pay attention to what your W is complaining about in the marriage and meet her half way in those complaints.

Again, I may be way off, but it kind of reminds me of my sitch. I'm not saying to forget everything she's done and continues to do, but what would be the worst thing to happen if you started acknowledging her complaints and eliminating them from the relationship? She's complained you don't communicate with her, correct? Why not COMMUNICATE with her?

She fired a shot with her lawyer. You fired back showing you're not going to roll over to her demands (excellent btw). And since then, NOTHING said. Why not for the next couple weeks give her nothing to complain about when it comes to communication between you and her about the kids. Heck, maybe even draw up a schedule for the week and say to her "I know we seem to get mixed up when it comes to the kids schedules so I thought I would print out this schedule so there's no confusion" and then give it to her. It could be something as simple as: Monday - S13 Hockey practice 6:15 - 8:15 I will pick him up after practice, return home and then I'm going to the gym....etc. Then say "take a look at it and if anything conflicts with what your plans are, let me know and we can discuss"

I'm not saying to become a doormat with her, but I've been told by many people that even when you're hurting beyond belief and your W (or H) is having lunch with Captain Kirk and the members of the Enterprise that they will still give you clues (or sometimes out and out statements) as to what they were missing and/or need from the marriage. Doesn't justify what they've done, but if you want to save your marriage you have to consider what their complaints are that pushed them that way.

I know a couple times in the heat of an argument that my W said some things about me that I filed away and those are the things I've been working on. I still don't know if we'll make it or not, but even if we don't, in my next relationship I will be that much better of a partner because I "get it". Maybe she will see that you've heard her and are working on making the changes she needs to be comfortable with you.

Just a thought. Maybe you're already doing that stuff. But it seems like your wife is crying out for you to communicate/include her when it comes to the kids. DO IT. You don't have to condone how she's acting, but don't give her a new supply of ammo for her guns.

I like your little truth dart you threw in there. Keep it up.