Thanks guys - needed this perspective...I have done a lot of thinking and reckon i'll take steps to create some space between w and i - that, after all, is what she expressed a need for - although i hadn't factored presence of OM in that space...
I need to leave that to fate, while sorting myself out.
If W chooses to move towards me - in any way, within that space, then the option is there.
At the moment I can see that I'm trying way too hard to keep fixing things and the more i tinker the more bits I seem to have left over to sort out - kinda like when you first tackle a DIY car job! LOL - thats showing my age - you wouldn't dare tackle any car maintenance now!
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years