some other man friend or somebody that has good influence on him can get through with some logic
He listens to no one. He has taken only bits of MC advice and used it. He is very selective in his hearing and actions. Friends acting on info they know have written letters and visited him to try talk senses. All unsolicitated by me. His response to them is " you don't know what I am going through' and to me he say " they don't know the full truth of the A so they don't know what they are talking about.
Trouble is no one is talking or thinking about any particular event, everyone and I will even say the MC are looking at the big picture regardless of what happened. His behaviour is so dramatic and so much poor me , then to be honest I think everyone thinks there is more to the story than what they have been told. If they dont think that , then they would consider H going a little crazy.
Anyway BBQ tommorrow. It is saturday night now and still no invite from H. Having said that I just lost my cool with him.
I went down to see progress on renevations on a building of ours. I arrived, had a look around for a couple of minutes and I turned around and he was gone. Not a word to me. Felt stupid standing there. So arrogant and so I called him and told him. He hung up on me. Guess I kiss invite goodbye.
Another thing really annoyed me yesterday but I held it together.
For the past few weeks without a word to anyone, I have been leaving the house when H gets there to give him time with kids. I have said nothing to kids about this, I just make up excuses. Nor have I mentioned it to H.
Last night D16 got a text from H
' If mum is going out , I can come over and see you '
D16 little confused about this and replies
' Why does mum have to go out "
He answered
' I feel more comfortable when she is not there'
He sant the same text to S20
They both came to me and asked what he meant. So what he has done is made an issue of something. My children were not happy with him saying that he did not want to come home while I was there.
As it turns out i was going out , so i said to them ' Dont worry I am going out" Let him come.
They did not want him there. They said they now feel they have to entertain him. So I had to do some fix up texting to H ( which was the last thing I wanted to do as I was p%^&ed off ).
I did and he came round and I went out. He did not ask were i was going. Fine. When I got home 3 hours later he was gone. Both D and S said he slept on couch the whole time and when he woke up they went to their rooms and he went home.
He is such a loser right now and once again I am fuming.
It feels like I am dealing with a stone wall. It is all functional and dumb. He does not have a thoughtful , loving bone in his body right now and to be honest, if this was the new him then I don't want him.
I feel a little calmer venting.
I so much want to go out with him as family tonight but I kow to ring him would not do anything to help Dbing. Wish I could just pack up and run away with kids so he really knows what it is like to be on his own.
And I swear , other than his mother there is not one member of his family I would miss.
