LADYBUG trying to detatch..but doesn't know how.

[cat03]

hon, ladybug, he has not changed ONE bit, he's the same abusive jerk he's always been with you, and now he wants to kick you out and not pay what he should??? why haven't you been to a L yet? by law he has to pay you enough so you can afford to stay in the hous with the kids. long ago you were talking about a SA, what happened? he can't just not pay, for crying out loud, don't give in to his games, call a L and check what can happen and get the ball rolling to protect yourself and the kids.

I KNOW you dont' want the D, neither did i, but our "Hs" are mentally ill with no inkling that they'll ever get their heads on right. Your h has been pushing you and abusing you non stop with his "work on the M - I want a D" line forever now.
Can you afford the house with your pay and his share of child support? you dont' need to file to figure out how much he has to pay you for child support. He is a cop and can't afford to get in trouble with the law about that, trust me, he knows he'll be in deep crap if he doesn't provide for you (my stbx is a cop, I know how that works).

I know you want that man you married, mourn him and quickly move on to defend your right and your chidren's. If there was anything respectable left in him he wouldnt' be doing this to you, if he truly wanted his M he wouldn't be attempting to kick his family to the curb. THis is yet is another of his games so you can give in to his threats.