Still a mystery to me

[cat03]

hey hope, your stich reminds me of mine, what with the S, A, piecing, then heading to an amicable D, we are now "friends" of some sort.

It took a few months but I've reclaimed my life, I love my life, fought hard to keep the negative thoughts from eating me alive and by the grace of God I've won.
The part about telling kids is the hardest and what hurts terribly, try to remember that kids will be more affected and hurt by the way you behave while dealing with the S/D. There is this great coparenting book that helped me tons and showed me to focus on the right issues. The main thing i got is that we should view our stbx as business partners, with whom we need to keep a cordial and good relashionship so that the business (kids) thrive. The book is "The Co-Parenting Survival Guide", give it a try.