Rate My LRT - NO CONTACT letter.

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If I was in your shoes (and I kind of have been) and knowing what I know now from DBing I would take out all of the accusations and judgements about her character and that of the OM. I would only talk about your feelings for her and setting the boundaries. Therefore...I'll post my version of your letter below.

By all means keep this letter for yourself, but DO NOT give it to her. It will not achieve anything but drama.

(Name),
I write you this letter while the events of tonight are still fresh in my mind. I write it in my own hand to provide myself closure.

I know now that you were hurting for some time. You had needs and desires that you could not verbalize and that I was unable to discern. I was blind to your pain. I have no excuse for any of this and I accept my part in the decline of our relationship. I know that one day I will be able to come to terms with that, but that day is not today.

You had a man in me who would have turned heaven and earth upside down for you. A man who spent his working life making sure that you and our beautiful son would live the lifestyle that you deserved and would want for nothing.

I feel hurt and now I realise that I have been lied to for months. You are behaving in a manner that is completely different from the wife I love. I will not be able to be a husband for and to you while you are having a relationship with another man where that friendship or relationship takes a higher priority than our relationship.

I watched you actually take a phone call from your boyfriend, in the home that we built together with eleven years of hard work, while I was there and I realized that you are not the wife I have loved for eleven years. I feel disrespected and though I wish I could be a better man, I feel very angry at your behaviour.

I still want the woman I married in my life, but tonight I realized that I don't need her in my life to be happy either. I deserve to have a life partner that treats her relationship with me as the priority and there will be no other man in the picture.

If you ever find her again, I would like very much like to hear from her. She is special.

Until then, I ask that you refrain from contacting me except in the following cases:

- Issues pertaining to our son.
- Issues pertaining to our divorce.
- Issue pertaining to the sale of our home.

In all cases I prefer email to telephone unless it is an emergency.

Maybe it's too late for this...I dunno. I just felt compelled to edit. If you want to piss your w off, then the original letter will likely do a great job in making her feel ashamed and guilty. The next reaction that usually comes when someone feels those things, is defense and then anger. I don't know what you will get but I kinda hope I'm not right.