I went the course of having a "friend"...it is wayyyyy to easy for things (your heart) to get carried away...I thought I was done...was not far from the final divorce...H wasn't giving me the time of day...but the bottom line was that I was still married...I was not truly over my husband...and I had a lot of healing to do!
In the end I ended up hurting a very good friend, someone who was there for me...someone who understood (I thought because we had talked about it...false hope is an evil thing) that I still had feelings for H...that maybe someday...maybe seemed to get farther a way...I started having feelings for this man...we even spent a truly platonic weekend together (separate rooms even)...it was hard to face the fact that as much as I wanted to move on...to feel loved...to feel attraction to and by someone...I was not ready...I was married...and it wasn't the right thing to do... I am very glad I put the brakes on...eventually my H did come home (too soon)...eventually we did work things out (a lot of hard work)...would I have been just as happy now if I had gone the other route???...I can honestly say I don't think so...like you I have a son...and he is thrilled to have his dad back...it was a risk...he might have never returned...but if the divorce had become final...and I had established my own happiness and self...then I truly believe that my son would have been okay with my "new" life...but it wouldn't have been his dad...think he is happier that he has his father back and that the family is complete once more...
It is better to let the fire totally burn out...to know you are truly free...truly single...and truly available...to have a friend and if it grows into more...then it is OK!
