Geez, they're all the same, just the names have been changed. They want to end up looking like innocent victims of our neglect, so deserving of that relationship that just "developed" during the separation. It's hard to believe, but some people are actually buying into that with my H. How sweet that he "reconnected" with an old love. He forgets to mention that he was more committed to OW than to his wife so he left to "live into his honesty." Folks point out there's more than one side to the story. So true--the truth, and his version of it. Yuck.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Have you ever asked to see where he is staying? Just so you know where the kids are and the conditions of the place and surrounding area? If you have, has he just refused to divulge? Just curious.
thanks for indulging me!
I've seen the apt. building where his friend lives; he had pointed it out to me a year ago or 2 before all this (apparently his friend has 3 or 4 girlfriends around the US).
It's downtown in a nice area, and I know his friend is also a L so the place is nice, but small according to the kids. There is a separate bedroom and bathroom they use when staying there. H has told me he wants to live with OW and the kids so I am expecting after the D they will officially get a new place or he will move in with her and have the kids stay there. I probably should be more curious, but I'm almost a turtle the way I have tried to never snoop, look at the cell phone, or any of it. Karen
As long as your comfortable with where they will stay; that's most important.
My problem is that my W wants out so bad, or a new R so bad; she's dating so many OMs right now that I don't trust what she says about where she will live or with whom. That's why I adamant that I see wherever she may take them overnight. Unless it's to one of her parent's house.
Well, had a productive day, but I realized I should have planned in some fun. Oops!
I took the kids grocery shopping and had them home by 11 as H was planning on coming at 11:30. He did and took the kids to a fall festival and movie, then brought them back after dinner and left at 9. I basically avoided him for the most part, was working out, cleaning, and doing this bible study homework (don't think I would have signed up for the bible class if I knew they want you to study one hour a day every day of the week.) Since I was sick this week, I'm trying to do a week's worth of bible study in 2 days! I was downstairs when H left and D8 was hollering at him "have fun dad" have fun. Guess he told her he was going out tonight and I joined in and I also said Bye, have fun! too! I'm such a goober sometimes!!! Well, most of the time!
Tomorrow is church and Bible study class so I'll be over at the church most of the day tomorrow and studying in between!!! Hope everyone is having a fun weekend, hopefully a bit more exciting than mine!!! Karen
Just one more thing to prevent us guys from ever maintaining any focus?
This is why women are so much better at multi-tasking. We can simultaneously cook, look pretty, mop the floor, throw in a load of laundry, balance the checkbook, and give birth, all while checking out the hot male nurse (who for some strange reason is shirtless). Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Karen, I totally understand your hesitation on 'ratting' out your H with all his bad-doings. When xH did a few irresponsible things in the spring, I started making a list. I never had to use it, but I casually let him know I was 'keeping track'.
I would have hated to use it, and can't really verbalize why...
Quiet day today. S14 came down with the flu yesterday. TKD is cancelled this week b/c they're painting the gym so that's good.
H just sent me an email asking me to send a list of the homeschooling books & stuff we're covering. I couldn't help myself I emailed back something like" You always said you were so bored by that, wow! I'll get together a list and email it to you." He replied: Thanks. I feel bad I was kind of snarky, but I am only human. I figure this sudden concern is legal-related of course not any actual real concern. Karen
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