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[Sugar and Spice]

[quote=Puppy Dog Tails
Nah. I'm a dog. I can lick myself. [/quote]

Hmmmm...now theres an interesting visual! Flexibility is good in any relationship!

[NoCodeBlues]

That reminds me of (the late great) George Carlin's comments about the dog licking himself in front of everyone:

But you're sitting around and talking's nice and the DOG IS LICKING HIS BALLS! ... And nobody mentions it.
Spectacular thing going on! If I could reach, I'd never leave the house, man, are you kidding?

Then they say things like, "Isn't he cute? He's taking a bath!"
"He appears to be licking his balls to me, Marge."
Yeah, he's been on that one spot for over an hour now. It's a mighty selective bath.

[Sugar and Spice]

That reminds me of (the late great) George Carlin's comments about the dog licking himself in front of everyone:

But you're sitting around and talking's nice and the DOG IS LICKING HIS BALLS! ... And nobody mentions it.
Spectacular thing going on! If I could reach, I'd never leave the house, man, are you kidding?

Then they say things like, "Isn't he cute? He's taking a bath!"
"He appears to be licking his balls to me, Marge."
Yeah, he's been on that one spot for over an hour now. It's a mighty selective bath.

AAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA...thats too funn!!!!

[kat727]

I agree. Karen, how are you doing today?

kat

[karen43]

Another good day today. The kids and I did a group family session actually yesterday with the C, and that was weird but ok. She had us talking about what makes us sad, mad, and glad. Reminder to myself I'd like to keep up talking that stuff freq. with the kids: we usually do the mad & sad stuff, but need to talk more about what makes us happy too. S14 was acting very autistic, just spacing out and that kind of thing. I think sometimes I'm in denial about it a little and my H is 100% in denial. But both sweet, smart kids who do their best so good enough for me.

Kids and I went to the library and checked out books and did the Art club they have on Friday. Then got back and H was here. I had all their backpacks and pillows and stuff ready to go spend the night with H, but he says my roommate's having a party or something so he can't have the kids tonight. He says this in some weird kind of tone, like duh, don't you know that? But no, I'm not a mind-reader so I didn't. He's taking them to dinner now and then going to come visit them tomorrow.

I had my best week ever with detaching I think. I didn't email H, call him, nothing. I think the lack of contact has been really good for me in detaching. I've also been reading lots of divorce books, life after divorce, parenting after divorce, etc. which is maybe helping too. I guess if it's a process I'm thinking I'm going to be ready or close to it by the D. Hope everyone is doing good. I'm going to clean up some and then work out (I haven't worked out in a week, but feeling better today, just going to do a half hour workout). Ciao! Karen

[karen43]

Exciting news!!! I have AOL and the big headline news is:

The hot new fashion trend is NO PANTS!!! You know we have a rough Spring season ahead of us when "no pants" is cited as a trend from the Fall fashion weeks.

The trouble starts when you find yourself staring at a model and you can't decide whether the designer meant for her clothing to be a bathing suit or lingerie -- and then you realize you were way off base -- these outfits were actually supposed to be everyday wear. http://www.stylelist.com/blog/2008/10/15...0723x1200701928

I thought not only I would be happy, but the guys here if this actually becomes a big trend (I'm guessing not though)!!! Karen

[kat727]

Since when has he had a roommate?

kat

[kat727]

Karen, you really shouldn't be encouraging them . these guys go gaga the minute you say no pants and now you are giving them a real example??? Yikes!!

kat

[karen43]

Well, I know he's living with the OW but since he's moved out he has the kids over to his (guy) friend's apt most of the time when he takes them overnight although has had them stay at her place when she was out of town he said he was housesitting for her. I think maybe to protect the OW b/c she was married until recently. He uses a po box so I don't know where they really live. As soon as our D is over, I'm sure he will "come out" or whatever you call it, wow! they just fell in love during our separation/divorce--she's not really a skank! I don't really understand any of the stuff he does, but probably has to do with $$ too I guess. Karen

[marriedCrazy]

I've not posted in your sitch before and I haven't really been following either. But I had a question about your H taking the kids for overnights. I want to know where my W is staying if she ever takes the kids overnight away from home. We are not at that point yet; but could be headed that way.

Have you ever asked to see where he is staying? Just so you know where the kids are and the conditions of the place and surrounding area? If you have, has he just refused to divulge? Just curious.

thanks for indulging me!