"I think it's important to vent, journal and get feedback."
It also has a side effect of drawing people in. You come here not knowing what to do.. it seems you put a post up and everyone should comment on it. I had some trouble with this.. not many people responded. I could hear "crickets" at times. Venting and journaling should be done here. If I have a regret it is that I did not do that. I chose to do my "journaling" to my wifes old best friend.. lets just say it was not a great choice. I can't say that I had a normal DB walk. Mine was a little "Crazy". Not unlike Tim's. Feedback is important.. thats the main reason I stay a Newcomer. Even though my life is good.. I find it more effective and rewarding to post here. Most of the people I know have moved to other groups.. and I find my time "slipping" away from being able to "Work" here. I said all that just to give some perspective to you Ndsmhelp. It does not matter what you "stitch" looks like.. posting here (DB.com) shows the intent you have... or as I call it.. your heart.
" There are more people reading than posting to you so sometimes what we write helps them even if they don't chime in. Plus all the different sitchs keep things balanced out."
And that just makes my "statement" more clear.
"I know it's far from over, Bill....no matter which way things go. I also know, from past experience that these feelings can be fleeting for me."
It is never over.. the "Work".. the "Work" just feels like a lesser load.. it becomes easier.. and more rewarding. You chose this path in life (marriage) because you wanted to be with "someone" come hel* or high water. Don't give up.. don't loose sight of what you committed to. Even if you fail.. you still win.. you walk away knowing you did everything you could to the best of your ability. When you see the fleeting.. do something to draw her closer. Show her that you will be there.. if you show her with your actions.. she will understand.. even if she says she doesn't.
"Sometimes, especially over the last few weeks, I feel like I shouldn't even be posting any more."
This I don't really understand... let me put it to you this way.. once you get your "mind" straight.. you could help a lot of people here (DB.com). You could be a Bworl.. or a Forrest Gump.. or a Coach.. It's in you.. you just have not grabbed a hold of it yet. If you resemble me at all.. and I think you do.. you just need that "extra" personal touch. I still think you need a close personal mentor to "help" you.
"There are some sad stories on this site, and many people going through hell."
This was the first time I could "see" your perspective changing some.
"Bill, Forrest...if someone had told me 6 months ago, I could "make friends" with someone on an internet message board, I would have told them they were crazy. I know have said it before, but "Thanks"...for staying with me, for advising me and looking out for me.....once again, somehow, some day...a cold one, a game of pool and some wings."
Crazy can happen anywhere. The one thing you never expect to happen.. always will. Maybe I am speaking for Bill here.. but we don't needs Thanks.. you show us Thanks by getting this right.. and being an Advanced DAM. Show us.. you can do this and make a lasting change.
The "drinks" and pool and wings.. sounds good.. you may have to look around to find me. I am all about a free night out!!
"I'm not a big "power of positive thinking" kind of person, but I do think it's possible for us to create what it is that we fear subconsciously."
Based on that.. if you can create you own fear.. why could you not change it into something different? The world has taught me.. people can see your fears.. even if they don't know you. I know for a fact if you seem like you have no fear.. people can see that too. I can't imagine that.. the people closest to us.. can't see the same thing.
"I wish that I knew what I know now When I was younger. I wish that I knew what I know now When I was stronger."
You may not be younger..
You can be Stronger.
Cause now you are.
Keep your head up...
And Always...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
