The problem I always had with my H down through our years together and raising a family, was that he never was the "bad guy" with the kids or with the relatives or in any other relatonships (friends, church, etc.) and after so many years of him coming out smelling like a rose and me like poop.....well, I resented it a lot. Don't know why I brought that up except that I wonder if your H wants everyone to be sure to realize that you are the "bad guy" in this story and not him. If he has always appeared to be that way in most things or if he has always been the people pleaser. I don't know, just guessing, but I still think it goes back to wanting to punish you for being so naughty and this is the worst punishment he can think of. If only he would be able to look into the future at the whole picture when the results of what he does comes into play. I would like to think if he is a desent man that he would not to that to his family. It isn't just you that will be hurt by this exposure, but I think his pain is not allowing him to think it through. Maybe some other man friend or somebody that has good influence on him can get through with some logic b/c your H is acting out of emotions now instead of being rational.
Anyway, you know we are here anytime you need to yell.
Sandi
P.S. Yeah, I am known for my long posts......lol. You'll get use to it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
