Gosh things like this put everything into perspective. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Originally Posted By: Cinderellaman
They will be coming over to spend the night at my house next Thursday as there is a grandma and grandpa day at school on Friday. I have sent H a TM saying that his parents will be here then, and that I was planning to take them out to dinner...would he like to join us...and that I understand if he thinks it weird or just does not want to.
No more I can do...
I will be praying for FIL.
Cinders your kind and generous spirit humbles me.
I am in awe of the way you just keep ‘giving’
I am starting to feel kind of sorry for OW, You must be one hell of a hard act to follow.
Nutty x
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
MWG - thanks so much....I think of you and your stich so often; thanks for your kindness !
Thanks MMF...you are the sweetest !
Nutty...although I am flattered by what you seem to think of me..there is really nothing special about what I do. I don't think I've ever seen or thought of it as 'giving'...it's just who I am and I don't think I could be different. H actually called this morning about a 'child' issue..we spoke nicely on the phone...he then referred to my invitation and TM and said he may like to join us, and how we would arrange things with the kids as it is the evening he usually takes them...I told him I was sure we could find a solution that would suit us both and that there would be no problem for me to find a babysit if the kids stayed home whilst we went out. He told me he'd think about it, and I said that would be fine.
I do understand that the ow may not like it, and may even feel that I am crossing 'their' boundaries by doing this, and I sometimes feel that I find myself trying to respect those boundaries. After all, THEY are now in a relationship, not H and I. However, in this case, I was going to go out with my inlaws without H, as it turns out, his father may be ill and I can imagine he would like to see/speak to them, so I thought it would be nice to invite him along. Nothing more, just trying to think how I would treat a friend....
D9 has a friend staying over, and D7 is sleeping in my bed tonight ! S5 was beat and I took him to bed at 7.30pm; hopefully they will all sleep a bit tomorrow !
Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Had a busy but great day! First breakfast with my kids and D9's friend who spent the night, then off to the hockey to see D7 play. H came as he is her coach. It's still funny to see how much he loves to stand close to me and talk to me...I talked to many friends there and my parents were there too, so I had time, but not as much for H. After I left, he even sent me a TM saying 'please congratulate your sister, her husband and of course your nephew on his 3rd birthday today' I sent him a TM saying 'thanks, I will, how kind of you'
So...S5 is off watching a football match with my friend's husband and another friend's husband and their boys...(men's outing). H heard about it this morning...think it must have hurt a bit...something dad's must like to do with their sons...
So, after hockey, we came home and celebrated my nephew's birthday...we had cake and had a great time! I took S5 to his friend's house to spend the night and I took D9 to her friend's house for a birthday party from 5pm till 8pm...it was a halloween party !
My parents, sister, her husband and the left over kids had dinner at my house and then they left...D7 and I went to pick up D9 and I put the girls in a warm bath and in bed...
I'm relaxing now and enjoying a nice evening at home, with the prospect of a quiet and relaxing Sunday !
