New Here-From Newcomers- hoping for more input...

[optimistwife]

Okay you all, thanks for pulling me back to reality! I have got my head in a better place today. Husbands are addictive- a little time makes you want a bit more, a bit more time makes you want lots! I guess this is the signs that in our hearts it is not over, and I am not ready to give up.

I am seeing my own pattern today more clearly that after spending time with him I get more needy, want more contact and time, and this is usually where he pulls back and goes dark a bit. I just need to remember that not knowing what he wants can be a good thing- as he could know that he wants it to be over- and he isn't saying that.

I do think him coming over, putting the ring on is his way of trying. Of course it is great- but not sure it if is really dealing with any issues (his, mine or ours). But at least it gives me a chance to try to be the real me (not the person he perceived me as when he had to leave).

It could be all over by now and it isn't= not even close. How about some day we all take a trip- meet somewhere for vacation. A couples vacation with our husbands... They can just wonder where we all met.