My Crazy mess, these are the days of my life!

[christarn]

MC went as we had expected. He has lots of anger/resentment issues. C gave us both assignments to work on over next week and a half (next session is Oct. 28) he needs to decide if he is really invested and wants to give up OW...and both forth effort to make this work. I need to decide if I want to invest time, energy etc. as I will be the one doing the "work"...meaning trying to show him I have changed, he can trust in me again, I do "have his back". wow..that was a run on sentence!!! lol C was objective, didn't choose one side or the other, listened and gave her advice as to how we could work together to solve issues. She said it would take time and patience. H feels that we can not solve marital issues by living apart. He said dogs are a deal breaker. She said, stop and think.

We sat in the car for about 5 minutes after the session and just talked. He said he felt trapped. If he doesn't do MC, I will screw him in court financially, if does MC, and it doesn't work...he will have lost more time in his life he could doesn't want to lose.

I feel/think, it was a step in the right direction. Him showing up, WAS HUGE!! If he didn't have some investment towards the M...he wouldn't have came. just my 2 cents.

that's the short version!!!

I am off for a weekend get away to St. Louis to see friends....much needed!!!

Will be checking in..taking the good ol laptop along!!!

Let me know thought/feedback....I need u guys!!!

((((((((((to everyone)))))))))))
christa