I am glad you have insight into his brain....I know he wants to avoid avoid avoid at all costs. The thing is, if I do what a lot would suggest and just leave H alone, give him space, I don't think he would really notice!?! Or, he would notice in a way that says to him, "Good for me, she is backing off so I can go to all the things I want to do (cattle, work, farm, etc) and not catch hell for it."
I cannot imagine a scenario where he says, "Crap! Where did she go? Better go lookin for her"....Based on past experience, it would be more like "Whew........the 'boss' is gone, now I can play (I don't mean OW, I mean his hobby crap)."
BBJ..IMO I think you need to approach this from a different place. I don't know and can't suggest how you do it but I can tell you this. If you come across as nagging his asss all the time then he will continue to avoid..I'm sure he is at peace when he has space. He WOULD notice in a "Good for me way". It would be nice if you could find someway to approach this in a non nagging way...
and you say his Hobby crap?? well he needs his hobby crap..we all need hobby crap...but he also needs to balance his BBJ time/family time/play time/work time..
