I am glad you have insight into his brain....I know he wants to avoid avoid avoid at all costs. The thing is, if I do what a lot would suggest and just leave H alone, give him space, I don't think he would really notice!?! Or, he would notice in a way that says to him, "Good for me, she is backing off so I can go to all the things I want to do (cattle, work, farm, etc) and not catch hell for it."
I cannot imagine a scenario where he says, "Crap! Where did she go? Better go lookin for her"....Based on past experience, it would be more like "Whew........the 'boss' is gone, now I can play (I don't mean OW, I mean his hobby crap)."
