Hi peace- I don't know that I could have put anything better than bm did. You know there are no guarantees that your H will come out the other side of this and still want the M. You have waited 20 months to see if your H will give you any hope but he keeps teling you that this is what he wants. Just because you move forward and proceed with the D does not mean that if he were to want to reconcile later, that you wouldn't consider it. I think you are handling the situation the best possible way.
Just maybe your movement away will help your H make some movement and finally see clearly that you are not the source of his problems...we can only hope.
