TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[TxMomw/2girls]

OK - first post locked... if anyone knows how to copy my first thread link into this one let me know.. old thread "H moved out - Help in crisis"

Hope you all find me..

I need some DB vets... some sucess stories... I feel hopeless somedays

I know my H has only been out of the house a month .... going on two months since Bomb next week... I feel hopeless sometimes and I want my marriage and my H back... a better healthier H back...

Some times I just doubt he'll come back or it will be so long before he realizes what he left that I'll be long gone by then.... I know I can't rush this but I need sucess of marriages that worked... after H or W moved out...

PuppyDog and Coach and ST I made it I think you all have good sucesses... please share with me...

My H watched our kids last two days while I was out of town on business... I came home last night and was upbeat and in a great mood... H seemed too be in a good place too. My D4 grabbed both of us (her in the middle) and pulled us together for "group hug" which we use to do so often.. My H put his hand around my back and rub it.. (funny how I now notice every little touch) .. he text me later and told me that is was the best day and half he has had in a long time ... I said I'm glad to hear that...

He said he wanted to go to the state fair this weekend with the kids and me ( I had brought it up originally) - I'm trying to play nice and do things with him so he leaves with good feelings of his family... If this goes through this will be the first family function we will have done.. He has already mentioned Halloween and coming over... Most of you give me great advice to let him come around .. it is time he is not spending with OW..

He still hasn't locked in his furnished apartment as he said he would this week... he is still staying with his 25yr old in a small apt... drives me crazy ... but I guess if he had his own place would he really be staying there??? Do I say anything again to him on this subject?

For the vets or anyone... I'm doing 180's I've learned being cold and stand offish he will close up and not be as eager to be with kids and me... I think my H struggles with depression per our C and not due to the situation he has off and on our whole marriage... he has a negative way of thinking when it comes to himself ... I also think possible mild MLC but how do we really know.. I know I treat this as an addiction and that does help me separate it... if he was doing drugs I would be supportive but b/c it's another women it makes it so hard..

I need some encouragment..

I will check on everyone else today too..