I am not really sure of the why. Here I am spending your money, but have you thought about talking to her about redoing the bedroom? I am thinking fresh start, not a reminder of the past. It wouldn't have to cost alot. Maybe just painting the walls and new sheets and duvet cover. Maybe even moving the furniture around. Do this together. Maybe it will help tear down another wall.
Have a wonderful vacation. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory