Don't know what to do- Please help

[limbo]

I know that its hard, I know its going to be hard to relax fully, and its just going to take time.

Running, I agree with you, I know she is sick, and a total loser, why would she stay when he keeps staying with me? How can she really believe he didn't love me, yet he wouldn't take the opportunity to leave?
When he left back in Feb 07 it was for one night, he was going to stay with his parents, and when they wouldn't let him, he wanted to come back, and when I told him no, he didn't go running to her, but stayed in a hotel, shouldn't that have told her something? And then the next day said he wanted to work on the marriage?
As far as moving or h getting a new job, we have talked about it, but we don't want to pull the kids out of there school, D16 only has one more year left, and is doing really well, she has had some learning issue's, so we don't want to change things for her. S8 also has his own issue's we want to keep some consistency in his life.
H has also been in his job for almost 20 years, and this is also an issue, he is well respected in his job, and it would be hard to give up...he also doesn't have a formal education in his field, he has worked his way up, so it would probably be hard to get a comparable job.
H got a call last night from his C so he will be seeing her next week, which I am happy about.

Sorry for the ramble!