Hmm so just to follow up, H just left for work. I thought he was working from home today, but as he's not, then I don't feel pressured to go do activities so this is nice.
It's WEIRD I tell you! He came upstairs and said if I was going to the store could I pick up these things on his grocery list and anything else I think "we might need". Of course I am not sure whether to read this as that we might need for the weekend or possibly beyond this? He even said "bye Baby asshead." Again, asshead is one of our nicknames for each other, but adding the baby part makes it seem somewhat sweet...
One thought that crossed my mind is that if he never brought up dates again I could end up sort of "de facto" living here. It was what Jody had originally suggested, then it didn't seem to make sense, but now it sort of does seem to make sense again. This way he would save face by never backing down from his stance. I don't know, he's just such a talkative WAS, but stranger things have happened...
I asked him if he wanted something for dinner tonight, and he said that he might be taking the new guy at work out to dinner tonight, so I did a 180 and said that was cool, whereas in the past I would have been really annoyed at him going out on a Friday instead of hanging out with me. He then joked around that I could just have his second dinner ready and waiting for him.
Honestly I just feel like something has shifted in a good way. Everything is so light and jokey and comfortable. I do realize though that if I were to ask he might still spew about it, so need instead to try and build on the comfort.
Please think good thoughts for me everyone. I feel like this is a pivotal moment, and I want to do everything I can from my side to make it go as well as possible.
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Last edited by istherehope; 10/17/0810:32 AM.
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
