I have been at this MLC'ing experience since 2002. My H had a total meltdown the spring of 2002 after his father died. Prior to his dad's death --my H had been a serious Christian -- deeply involved in our church --in a men's Bible study ---Promise Keepers --etc--etc. He was the LAST guy I would have thought would have fallen into this "pit" ---but he did.
I had just lost my father to very tragic circumstances the year before ---and I was also recovering from the effects of a serious neuro-muscular disease that had leveled me in '97. So you can see that my H's MLC was the "cherry on the sundae".
Our pastor tried counseling with us both --then a psychologist was brought in. That's when a "label" was put on this "madness". But as 2002 progressed, my H's insanity did too. And by November he was gone.
Our church tried everything they could to bring my H around --even after my H got an apartment. But nothing helped and in 2004 I was divorced. By God's grace --I was able to keep our home and land --and a growing home business.
Now I am doing fine --very busy with the house and property and the business. I am active with Dr Conway's group --a small prayer group that is a spinoff of the larger one that "meets" via phone each week --and I am plugged in with Rejoice Ministries --in addition to lurking on this site.
You are right ---many of these MLC's take quite a long time. In fact from what I can see --some of these situations could take up to ten years if not a bit longer. And I am including my situation in that category. I now see how damaged my H was --and am learning how unhappy his homelife was as a little boy. Only the Lord can heal those deep wounds and only He can restore marriages destroyed by MLC madness.
I know that I would have never grown as a Christian had I not been thrown into this "fire". All I can say is that the Lord has a plan for our lives and He will use even these very difficut experiences for our good and His Glory.
Do stay encourgaged, Snowmm. The Lord is growing you up so you too can help others one day.
And yes ---Snodderly is a true blessing on this site. Many of us in Dr Conway's group have learned much about MLC from reading her many postings!
