D11 has lashed anger toward me 2nd day in row. Yells , says she hates me, I am rude and evil. Very minor things set her off. She says she feels like killing herself.
Warned H as he was on the way here to visit. He scolded her for being hurtful and disrespectful toward me. Says it is all about her not getting her way. Told me I needed to get her to doctor. I stewed listening to this and lost my cool. I didnt yell, but I was upset asking why he could blame this on her just not getting her way and accuse of being hurtful and disrespectful when he has hurt and disrespected them. Of course I brought up the A. He went on defense and says, so Im the one to blame for all this! I brought up his behavior with OW in front of them and her sleeping in his bed with him when D11 walked into his room that night. H said its not like that- that was a long time ago and the kids have me 100% when theyre with me.I said no Ive taken blame but you had choices to make and Im not to blame for those choices and their effect on this family. H says kids "feed " off me. And I said, you ask any of these kids, I have been a rock through this, but I do not deserve and will not tolerate this treatment from D11. H admits he "went about this the wrong way" and I said well its selfish! and stormed off. Bad bad DB moment.
H had to leave for meeting as D11 continued her rage. She calmed down for awhile, but started again and I couldnt take it anymore. Had D11 call H. Then I called. Asked him please this has been really tough yesterday and today, please take them tonight and take off work tommorrow. I need your help. I can only be strong so much. Its so easy for you - you can just leave. Please. I cried . He was quiet on the other end. I said Im sorry for getting onto you earlier,(I forgot to apologize with a WE) but Im just worried about these kids. He says he is too but cannot take off work tommorrow. Only half day. I was speechless- he just chose his job and OW(I know she is there tonight) over his kids. I continued to cry and said Id let him go. He says OK and hangs up without a good- bye. WHY WHY! That was more hurtful than hearing "I dont love you anymore".
