Ottocat - is your story on the board? I would like to read it...if not, can you recap for me? Thank you for your support.
braveheart - I don't think you speak the truth for all cases. I think you need to let the MLCers speak for themselves. I know that three years is not enough. Been there and done that. What you said hurt and you sound bitter. Not at us but you take it out on us. It's okay...I've gotten over it. I have gotten through this because of a lot a help from God, friends, co-workers and family. But through it all I have to repeatedly tell myself...hubby is just in his teenage years. I have gone through 7th grade to 12th grade...hopefully soon we will be in the first year of college and then he will start waking up. (Just like my girls did when they got to college.)
Snodderly - I'm doing what I want to do but take care of my husband and son. They just don't want me or need me right now. It's okay - I have been there with my girls when they were in their teens. They just want to make sure I'm home and then they are off again. I really miss watching the sports things with my husband. I hoping that I will get that back when he comes out of this.
I can't tell where he is in relation to his past life. When I think back to his life as a young kid it brings me to tears. He was emotionally abandoned by his parents and physically by his older sister and brother at the age of 10. I really hope that he is able to work through that.
Ottocat - I'm with you on the time frame on this. I don't think we give it enough time. I think more like 5-7 years through the rough times not 3-5. Having said that though two years ago when I thought it was going to be three years I thought no way. Now I know that if I want to go somewhere into the future with this guy I'm going to be here a lot longer. I don't want to get my hopes up and then have my husband go away - emotionally - again. I want him to work through everything. I don't push him for answers. I just keep thinking over and over...he will come to me.
braveheart - you are right. The odds are against me. BUT this isn't about me. It's about the MLC and God and well the odds are not against God and when we step back and let God handle things...we all win.
Snodderly, having said what I said just above let me say this. God is taking care of me. I am taking care of God's business here on earth with my husband. God asked me to come into this family in 1995 to show them love. This time I'm learning how to love the way God wants us all to love each other. Unconditionally! It is hard because we grow up believing that we can change people. That isn't want God wants me to do. He just wants me to love my husband - without any conditions attached. When I do what God wants me to do...the rest will fall in to place. (Remember Job!)
Amy C. - I just got really depressed on Sunday and there were a lot of things that contributed to it. Braveheart's response was not helpful.
I pray everyday that my husband will be able to push aside his pride and do what God wants him to do.
Okay I have to go and take my daily therapy - BATH TIME - thanks everyone!
