Question for Puppy... and of course anyone else that would like to comment - the more the merrier!
you made a comment in TnGuy's thread about your W asking why you were still fighting for her. Were you doing something in particular? I want to make sure I am doing what I can for me and the K's, but is my not leaving and being there showing my W in some small way that I am fighting for her?
Just curious...
No, I was being total "Joe Friday" at this point. But I hadn't (yet) filed for divorce, I told her once or twice that I still loved her, and I did some small kindnesses and acts of service for her (like covering her up with a blanket when she fell asleep on the couch, or pulling her car in the garage for her -- that sort of thing. No more than a couple a week).
I spoke highly of her (while still expressing my disappointment) to her parents and her siblings, and to our children.
I pulled my weight around the house -- plus a little extra.
But mostly, I think it was the aggressive confrontation and exposure ... that I would be willing to go to those lengths to try to fight for her. She KNEW I'm a classic conflict-avoider and pleaser -- a real "Nice Guy." So for me to intentionally make myself THAT uncomfortable, and risk her wrath ... well she knew that was something big for me.
