Thanks Hope for the advice. I did think about the same vindictive thing!!! How funny we are on the same page about things...although it was going to be a text message saying "did you know where your boyfriend was yesterday afternoon?" She would say no and I would say "in my bedroom" or something along those lines but that's the evil side. They were only thoughts and I was not going to act on them because yes I know he would have gotten pretty angry and it would have ended any possible hope of reconciliation.
He admitted to me that he thought about it and I know he did all day until it was time to come over. It's just crazy isn't it?
I'm proud of you Hope! You definitely made him think after you hung up. Good for you!! The detachment is working!! Keep it up!!
I will have to detach as well....
Oh and I did find out from my cousin who did work for the family court that since I was not properly served according to law that from the time he filled out the paperwork he has 120 days to properly serve me. She said that he will get a letter in the mail from that place where he did the paperwork warning him that the 120 day mark is approaching and that I must be properly served or the case will be dismissed. So basically I'm just going to wait until I am properly served. If I get properly served then I will proceed with the reconciliation request. Otherwise I'm just going to drag it out as long as possible.
Just thought I would share!!
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
