If he exposes it for own self gratification - and it is, {A has been over nearly 4 years )- and say we do end up remaining married, how do I look at any of his family in the eye?
How do we maintain our circle of friends comfortably knowing that they know what I did ? I would feel my marriage was of less value than theres. That would be horrible.
OMW would never end her marriage to OM, I know this for sure but I think he could use it to be the one to walk away. Another family destroyed.
How do I counsel my children through their adult years with respect? What will they gain from our community knowing what there mother did. Shame. OM and my children were best friends and still remain in contact - although they hide it from us. I have no problem, they are 16, but my H hates it. Worse still one is a girl and one is a boy and we all know the stories of forbidden fruits.
I cannot see any valid reason to expose unless it helps make H feel like a man again and claws back some self respect. Personally I cannot see him feeling to good around his friends if they see him as being a husband who has been cuckholded !
Seems a lose lose to me. But I am seeing this through the eyes of the spouse that betrayed.
PS - Choose wisely your new president as you are technically electing a world leader. ( most down here like Obama but as we don't know policy's it is based on change and it being fantastic for the average man and the African American )
