Who you going to walk the trails with....could be a very romantic thing to do.....Also, you you going to the work party with? Yep, you know me.
If its the alphabet girls, we're gonna have to call the wambulance for you I think!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Sorry, didn't mean to scare anyone. The last time I didn't post for a few days, the wife was in the hospital again.
Not so lucky this time.
I intended to stay away for a little bit. I spend WAY too much time on the board here. I think that moving away from here helps to move on with things. Less focus on the bad things that happen concerning the wife. More on me.
Not that a whole lot has happened. I've had some interactions with the wife in the past few days. Not a whole lot to report other than I'm sure she is still seeing OM (No!) and that I don't intend to fight for my marriage any more. Just going to let things fall where they may. I have a life to live and she doesn't want to be part of it. Fine by me.
I don't intend to be her bud. I deal with her in a caring way, as usual. She's the mother of my children, but my dealings with her are now that I don't give a damn anymore. I love her, yes. I ALWAYS will. I'm just not willing to sacrifice myself for her anymore.
Friday was an interesting day.
Long story short. Really.
First, on Thursday, Amanda calls me to tell me goodnight. I was just walking into Applebee's for some drinks. She lets me know that she is going to the doctor on Friday for a lump on her neck. Then she tells me that the wife is asking if I can watch the girls on Saturday because she has to work from 11-3. I let them know that I was going to go hiking and that they can now join me.
On Friday, the wife takes Juli and her bike to school for Bike Rodeo day. She can't stay to watch, because she has to take Amanda to the doctor. After the appointment, the wife decides to go to work and leaves Amanda at the apartment alone. While I'm having lunch, Amanda calls me to let me know how the appointment went. Turns out, it is a swollen lymph node. She lets me know that her mom asked her to ask ME to see if I could pick up her meds.
Lucky me. I let her know that I will. While on the phone, the wifes toilet overflows and is starting to get the carpet wet. Poor Amanda was freaking out. I call the wife. She calls the complex. I was trying to tell Amanda how to turn it off, but she kept telling me it won't stop. Finally it does.
After work, I pick up the meds and take them to the apartment. I spend a little time with the girls, and the wife shows up. As usual, she is frustrated and a little grouchy. I stay only for a little while. She lets me know that S14 is going to be around for Saturday, so no need to watch the girls. I ask the girls what they want and they want me to pick them up to go hiking. I end up at home watching "21" and having dinner alone.
This morning, I pick up the girls. The wife is trying to leave. No she supposedly has to be at work at 10. While there, her phone rings once. Juli take the phone to her. By Juli's look, I know who it is. I hear the wife tell her in the bathroom, "It's ok. I'll just call him later."
While she is making herself a pancake to go, her phone get two texts, too. She offers me some breakfast, to which I decline. She leaves, and I finish getting the girls ready. I notice that there is a card on her kitchen bar. A listing of some bills and payment amounts. I also see a cable bill that is a month behind. Now due is over $200. Same for the electricity. Visa bill is a $360 payment. A few others. The handwriting did not look like her writing. I've seen the OM's writing and his looks like a first graders. Not like his either.
We had an absolute BLAST on the way to the park and at the park. About an hour and half drive to get there, through the Texas Hill Country. Kind of where I live, but deeper in. I'm more on the outskirts. We hike some trails that I have to push them on. The final trail took us to and elevation of 2200 feet. STEEP climbing up loose rock, but well worth the climb in the end with the view of the changing Maple trees. As far as the eye could see.
And no phone signal. Sweet.
On the way back home, I get a call from the wifes favorite aunt in Laredo. She is in San Antonio staying with the wifes older sister. She has not spoken to my wife since they stayed at our house before the wifed moved out. She just wanted to find out how I was. We talk for a bit and agree to meet tomorrow so she can maybe see the girls. I take the girls back to the apartment. S14 is having a bunch of friends over to the apartment and the wife was back out in the courtyard area starting a fire. Two of the lady neighbors were out sitting on the grass talking, so I joined them. I kept wanting to leave, but one of the neighbors kept talking to me. At one point, while the wife was off doing something, one neighbor asks me, "So, how long have you and Clarissa been divorced? Ya'll get along so well."
I say, "Were not." "Oh. I'm sorry." "You think we seem to get along, huh?" "Well, yeah."
The kids distracted us and we changed the subject. Everytime I got up to leave, that lady would keep talking to me, or ask me to hold her dog or something. She is goofy. I talked to the wife a little. Maybe something here and there. Nothing much. I end up asking her what time I can get the girls and she just shrugs and says whatever. I tell her I'll call her. I tell the lady goodbye for the third time and come home. She says, "Okay, sweety." She is about 35. I was just too cool.
And I was being cool for myself. Not for the wife's benefit. I don't care one way or the other anymore. Her neighbors are really good looking.
I'm supposed to go to my friends party tonight. I'm exhausted. No one to go with either. I may rest a bit and head out later. I'm sure it will be going on for a while.
I just wanted to give a short update.
Not too bad considering it's been a couple days.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Yep, you know me.
Karen