He's manipulating in a very nice way, but you don't always have to do what he suggested. You need to think about what you want and what you want to share w/your children, just as he does. Nothing says you have to give in to all of his nicely put "demands". Cinders, start thinking about what you want and do not worry about whether or not this will affect the way he thinks about you.
It's time for Cinders and what she wants out of life.
I agree with this totally.
Cinders I have been meaning to ask you if you felt your H had a passive aggressive streak. He comes across as so caring but there is often a cruel undertone to what he does and says.
You have been more than agreeable for the longest time, where has it got you? Now I think it is time to do what You want, not out of spite, but out of what is best for your children. You need to make choices based on what makes you feel good about you, not what you think will make him feel good about you.
Nutty x
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
