The only problem with making a "new friend" is that if he comes into this thinking "I've got a date with a hot chick. Wonder how this is going to go? Where it's going to go." and you come into it with "I'd love to make a male friend. Free dinner and a movie sounds good too but that's as far as it's going". Who is going to be possibly be hurt? Him. You know what you want - friend only. He wants a woman in his life. See what I mean?
I have recently been cultivating a friendship with a male that I am, frankly, VERY attracted to but I know it will not go anywhere. Neither one of us is anywhere near ready for a R of any kind but it's good to get a man's POV on things so neither of us feels threatened by it. We also don't go out alone together but we do talk alone sometimes (standing in the parking lot after meetings - that sort of alone). If you can make him understand you just need a friend right now that happens to be male then do that. Just make sure it's VERY clear.
Your H is a total mess. I'm so sorry. Mine is too so I understand.
More importantly, how are your kids doing right now?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
