Oh, don't worry -- those first came to mind, to be honest (but need to keep this rated PG-13 at least.) I think of the former when I want to think evil thoughts about STBXW and OM.
And the latter one is something I will want to be able to say to W on the day our D is final... but I won't.
Hey Sweetie, I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Try to keep thinking of it as business even though it really isn't but that idea may help. I so dreaded going to the courthouse. I would be happy if I never had to go there ever again for any reason.
Hugs my friend.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey, sweet lady! I will be thinking of you tomorrow as well - you'll be in court, I'll be in mediation - and I totally know what you mean about being in a room with a bunch of other miserable strangers. Happy, happy, joy, joy.
((((((((((lwb))))))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
my lwd. am so sad that today has come, because I know how much you wanted something different. but I also know you will have an amazing, joy-filled life. you are a treasure, never forget that. I look forward to seeing where you take your life. those who are in it and who will meet you in the future are well blessed.
keep looking for those silver linings. soon they will outshine every cloud in the sky
mwah!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Early on you were my cheerleader, helping me through the daze of chaos. You've been incredible, focusing on what is most important, providing such hilarious moments in times of duress (not going down to ream out him when you were with messy hair and t'shirt ensemble which drives him wild) and the continuing joy of your daughters.
You've lead the way and continue to do so.
As this day of poignant endings and awakening beginnings progresses know you are absolutely, completely one hundred percent wonderful, astounding and resilient.
And the divorce police won't ticket you if you don't sit together. Oh yes, and drawing/doodling helps. I drew mine in tattered spandex super hero costume with his diddlysquats hanging out. Made me laugh.
Thinking of you today...you are an amazing woman, full of courage and grace under fire. So many of us are holding you and your precious girls close today, sending our love and caring across cyberspace to you...
Very nervewracking, appearing in court. I have done it numerous times through my career, but this was very different. H was visibly stressed and nervous.
H was on time and polite. Kind. Held doors, saved me seats, understood when I was very upset they wouldn't allow my huge Diet Coke in the courtroom with me.
Made it through the appearance with a high head. Until the judge mentioned 'minor children' and listed them, dates of births and so forth. I choked up. As did H. I feel they should be listed under 'victims' in this mess.
It is final. The judge wished us luck, commended us on our approach (mediation, fair settlement, no battles).We walked to our cars (H's motorcycle, he parked close to me). H made small talk on the way and asked "Oh you aren't talking to me now?" when I was merely nodding. H changed for work in the back of my SUV and asked "Did you want me to stay away tonight? Not see the girls? I can, its ok." I started crying and said it would be better if he didn't come by. He started crying and reached out to hug me. First personal contact in months. We cried quietly for a moment, on a busy street, with life going on all around us. H let go first and wiped a tear off my face.
That is that.
Off to work now. Wasn't scheduled but duty calls. Probably good for me.
Thank you everyone for your support.
PS: I know I should be typing X in front of H, but I am not ready yet.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow as well - you'll be in court, I'll be in mediation - and I totally know what you mean about being in a room with a bunch of other miserable strangers. Happy, happy, joy, joy.
), and you know, I STILL want to be you when I grow up!!!