I just read the first few entries on you first thread and it brought back all the feelings of bewilderment I had just b4 and during the bomb. Only my W never had a PA/EA, as far as I know.
It is such a profound betrayal when our spouse makes the decision to throw away their vows. I wonder if they will ever have a lucid moment to understand what they have done to us, and how they could have addressed their frustrations (with us, with the R, etc) differently.
Sometimes I think that when it happens to them they will understand, but I doubt they will ever fully face up to their part in the matter, or the pain they have caused by not taking responsibility for their own emotions/needs.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
