Mixed Signals or Just My Imagination ?

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'So to counter his insecurity I do it anyway, and then I don't feel good about it.'

Apparantly my W did this as well, on our counselor's advice, until her resentment of me was unbearable.

Of course, I wasn't fully aware she was just putting up with it, but I sensed it and it was not very interesting to have sex with someone who seemed to be unresponsive.

Communication ? What's that ?

Sometimes it's like we do actually speak a different language. I think it is because my W reads my 'tone' ( which she often misinterprets) instead of my actual words.

My 'tone' may actually be adding an additional layer of meaning, but not the one she interprets it to be.

And sometimes I have actually pulled out the dictionary to read definitions, bc IMHO she is confused. She seems to takes cues as to how a word has been used in her expereince and that definition can differ from what the dictionary says, and from what I mean to say.

It gets complicated.

I have suggested a Retrovaille weekend as a possiblity to help us with our communication. I doubt she will ever do it but its worth asking.....