My point is, there is nothing you can do about what your W does or doesn't do. It hurts us to see our children miss out on a parent they love so much. Instead, it forces us to become a single parent of sorts to deal with all of the issues our children face. The one thing that will help you with all situations is to deal with your D with love. If she upsets you, correct her but do it with love. If she does something positive, take notice and do it with love.
I think this is wise advice. I try everyday to do deal with D10 in this way. It's nice to hear that your D is doing so good.
It's understandable that my W is going to to do what she wants. She has been avoiding going to my family events. Her reason for missing the last one was she already had plans. I been asking her if she can take D10 to D's cousin's B-day. There's a training class I want to attend, but if she can't take D10 then I'll take her to the party. My W wasn't sure if she had to work. Finally when she finds out she has the day off - she wants to spend quality time with D10. I told her that D10 has been looking forward to this party. My W said she would think about it.
I guess it's nice that she's thinking about our D. Like it says in the stages of an MLC - first they connect to the children. I was the first to hate and now I'm (hopefully) the next in like for a reconnection.
