Hi H4U - I have gone back and skim read your sitch. I did notice a comment regarding outting your W A.
3 people and this site ( ha ha) know my A was P. They are H, OM and me. It hapened nearly 4 years ago. OM does not know that I can clean to H. He still thinks we share a secret.
My H says that in his own good time he will confront OM and OMW and tell them all he knows. This will be devasting to myself, our family and our community.
Should I respect his choice to do this?
He knows it will upset me and has even said that he has no wish for anyone else other than us 4 to know. ( hence the fear of him discovering this site - seems disrespectful to his wishes } He said he is embarassed enough with people knowing I had EA with ths guy. I know OMW - as does H. She will be so angry and she is like a ticking time bomb anyway, I know she will scream it from the roof top.
Will telling help H ?
Is doing this important to his healing ?
I have no contact with OM. i see him in the distance, shops etc but do not acknowledge him. He is not worth my M.
Doing this exposing posses a huge risk to me in that OM may intiate contact. I grieved for the loss of this relatonship once before. I need to be strong enough at the time to rebuff and I think that if H does do this , then I am going to be so upset an possibly vulnerable.
Any suggestions as to what I could say to H to prevent this ( if you think it should be prevented )?
