Too funny!!! When my husband has the next affair, and the kids have flown the nest, then I'll come join ya'all!
Le, you asked my opinion on your wife's situation... well... statistics are against her. My guess is they will try to make the best of an imperfect situation, but I think chances are she will eventually realize there's just as many problems in the new relationship as with the marriage, and trying to force together two families only adds to the difficulty. Typically, these are not good relationships. I've noticed that it's a wee bit easier to make these "later realationships" work once the kids are grown and on their own. Although relationships based on one person trying to "save" another usually aren't built on the best foundation. Typically not the healthiest. But you can't concern yourself with this. Just worry about yourself.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
