Positive developments?

[jon2911]

Well, lots to update here.

The long weekend was very good, basically got to do a lot of our favorite couple activities: Grey's Anatomy on Thursday, yard work on Friday (actually felt like working on our own house together), a small-town fair we found randomly on Saturday, and movies and Army Wives on Sunday. The movies were Body of Lies and Sarah Marshall, both very good. We also went geocaching with my iPhone, I thought it was really nerdy when her brother took us before, but another good memory.

W is not on speaking terms with her roommate, who is trying to get her kicked out. Her "landlord" is also hitting on her and making her feel uncomfortable. I joked that she should move to Dallas, and she said "maybe I should move back to my old apartment, and you could keep your stuff at your place".

I've thought about this since then, and it could be a really great idea. She's not ready to be completely back together, but this could be a good transition stage. The apartment is less than a mile from my house, on a beautiful lake where I keep my canoe. I went out last night and floated around, talking to for and some other friends. It was so peaceful, one of those "why haven't I done this more often?" moments.

I'd been keeping it light up to this point, but felt like the time was right to take the plunge. I asked what her concerns about moving were, and she said money. I told her that the rent isn't any more than she's paying in Houston, and I can help her out if needed, just like I am now. She also asked if I really want her back after what I know about OM #1, #2, etc. I told her I made a lot of mistakes as well, and not to say OM doesn't bother me, but I definitely want to be back together. She also asked my concerns, which is another huge step. I mentioned that continuing without any commitment scares me, but I don't expect her to feel safe to commit just yet. I told her we could continue the discussion via e-mail, which is something she's suggested in the past for sensitive topics.

Today, she asked for the phone number of her old complex, and we IM'd about job possibilities in Dallas. It seems like she's really thinking about it, but I'm staying cautious. Inevitably there will be some pullback, and she needs to give 60-day notice to her landlord. So this would still be a while out, which is probably good. It would be returning to the same setup we were until March, but I'd still be overjoyed if it happened.

W is napping now, and I'm finishing up a project at work that's been bugging me for a while. It turned cold and rainy today, and I didn't check the weather beforehand and got soaked on my bike. So I think I'll head to the gym and then home, need to catch up on some sleep.