I was unfaithful

[Hope4us]

Max, I'm so very happy you read my post and understood my intent. I'm very proud of the things you're doing to show your H you can be trusted and want to do whatever it takes to make it work. I would kill for my W to have one smidgen of what you've figured out.

I admit your post that I replied to hit a little close to home for me and it made me angry. I apologize if there was an edge to it, but your post reminded me of WDID when she first came here and she and I had some conversations where I wasn't very nice, but I think it helped clear the fog for her (If you're reading WDID, HI, talk to you soon!).

And you are absolutely correct. We do care. We all care. Everyone hit by this, whether wayward or betrayed, we're here because we want to discover our part in the events that happened and become better people.

Give him the space he needs. Not saying go dark, but do not pursue in any way. Let him miss YOU. Then if he starts to make some movement your way, slowly engage him.

One thing I read on another website was, until a wayward spouse no longer uses the word "but" after saying they had an affair, they still don't understand just what it does to a person. I think you're getting close.

Peace.

H4U.