Just keep in the back of your mind, her total focus is doing what she perceives is best for your kids.
From everything I've read .....what is best for your kids is spending lots of quality time with YOU !!!
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.