I think going dark on your wife right now is good. It would be healthier for you because you are feeling some anger towards her. Continue to act as if you are moving on (actions are doing... in other words, when you think and act it you actually do it). Also, it's okay to be a little mysterious. I'm glad to hear you didn't tell her if there was someone or not. Make sure there is a lot of things going on in your life that she knows nothing about.... In other words, if you go out with a guy friend just say you are going out with a friend. She doesn't need to know any details about your life. It sounds like this bothers her. Good!
Your life is yours now. She doesn't need to know anything about your personal life at this point and she shouldn't.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
