Try very, very hard to think that your anniversary is just another day and try and keep yourself busy by doing something nice for you and the kids.
I have spent the last three anniversaries w/o my h and to be honest, I have not had it bother me so much. My h was never big on holidays/celebrations to begin with so maybe that makes it a little easier.
I know your h may not come around as much anymore but he will have to get thru his issues on his own. All you can do is stand back, show unconditional love.
Imagine being in his shoes--he knows he did wrong and he possibly has a child that came from this. He will have to live with his sin(s) the rest of his life. It will weigh very heavy on his heart forever and there is nothing anybody can do to take it all back.
I know we all make mistakes in our lives and sometimes they are very difficult to forget, let alone forgive, but be still for awhile and listen to God.
Your h is not having the time of his life at all. And also, ow is pulling his strings as well. I do not envy being in his position at all.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
